The Love Better Blog
Scott and I had hit a rough patch in our marriage…
As I sat in the therapist’s office, running through all the reasons my unhappiness was everyone else’s fault, I was looking for a little more sympathy than I got if I’m being honest.
Hate is everywhere we turn. It’s even down inside us sometimes, if we’re honest. So how do we become part of the solution? Here’s a little of our story and an amazing Ted Talk from Sally Kohn, who faced her inner bully and chose to love better!
We don’t get to choose where we were born or what experiences we’re exposed to as we grow. But every single one of us comes armed with the one and only thing we need for connection — our presence.
Be YOU. Be THERE. Be LOVE. And Be LOVED.
Love isn’t what happens after we get perfect. It’s what happens INSTEAD of getting perfect.
When we learn to treat ourselves gently, we learn to be more understanding with each other.
Every now and then, I remember a younger, more perfectionistic version of me whose relationships felt more like competition than camaraderie.
Today we launched the first in a series of YouTube video about harnessing the power of a minute to make a big difference in the world around us.
Deep, satisfying relationships happen one minute at a time!
We talk a lot about kindness here. And how we treat one another is a big deal - in our families, at work, in our communities, cross-culturally and cross-generationally. But what we are NOT talking about is simply being '“nice.”
One of the great disappointments of my life was the realization that all my years of trying to be nice in no way meant that I knew how to love well.
“…If our faith asks us to find the face of God in everyone we meet, that should include the politicians, media, and strangers on Twitter with whom we most violently disagree.” - Brene Brown.
Growing up, I had no idea that I believed in anything that wasn’t true. Starting with monsters under my bed.
Believing stuff that wasn’t true didn’t happen because anyone intentionally lied to me. Except, of course, in the case of Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy, which resulted in gifts and money, so I’ve willingly made peace with that.
Power without love is reckless and abusive,
and love without power is sentimental and anemic.
Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love.”
- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.